Sometimes, it is good to be negative. I’m not just talking about healthy skepticism, I’m talking about downright negativity!

One tool for using negative thinking is discovering what it is you want in life. Many people have a difficult time describing what it is they want, but have no problem telling you what they don’t want. This is a great opportunity!

With a blank piece of paper, write the following:

“I don’t ever want to do ___________________ ever again” and fill in the blank. (I used ‘ever’ twice on purpose… kinda like a double-dog dare…).
Example: I don’t ever want to do laundry ever again (ok, kinda weak, but it’s a start)

Keep doing this until all of your “do”s are exhausted. When you have reached a point where you are pausing more than 10-15 seconds trying to think of something, switch from “do” to “be”:

Then repeat the process:
“I don’t ever want to be ___________________ ever again”
(I don’t ever want to be overweight ever again)

When you have reached a point where you are pausing more than 10-15 seconds trying to think of something, switch from “be” to “have”:

“I don’t ever want to have __________________ ever again”
(I don’t ever want to have debt ever again)

This covers many things that you don’t want to ever be, do, or have. You can do this again whenever you wish!

Once you have your list(s), now comes the great opportunity; turn them around 180 degrees. Find the “positive” opposite.

So in my examples:

“I don’t ever want to do laundry ever again” becomes “I want clean clothes.”
“I don’t ever want to be overweight ever again” becomes “I want to be thin.”
“I don’t ever want to have debt ever again” becomes “I want financial freedom.”

By purposely being negative and describing what we don’t want, we can turn it around and discover what we DO want. Since what we focus on tends to manifest more and more*, doesn’t it make more sense to focus on what we want instead of producing more of what we are trying to escape from?

*not in a mystical “The Secret” way, but rather, by focusing on what you want, you train your subconscious to notice things that it wouldn’t have previously (e.g., new car effect. After buying a car, suddenly that kind of car is everywhere.)